Stand On It: Courage Has Consequences

Making the courageous decision is one thing. Standing on it when people don’t like your decision is something else entirely.

This week on The Well Done Life, we’re continuing the conversation from “Courageous Decisions” and talking about what happens after you choose yourself, establish the boundary, make the change, or finally say no.

Because courage has consequences.

Sometimes people you love won’t understand your decision. Sometimes they’ll be disappointed. Sometimes your growth changes their access to you or disrupts expectations they had for your life. And sometimes people will try to use their feelings, disappointment, or history with you to convince you to reconsider.

But here’s the thing: people are allowed to have feelings about your decisions. Their feelings don’t automatically get authority over them.

In this episode, we’re talking about:

• The aftermath of courageous decisions
• Allowing people to have their feelings without taking responsibility for fixing them
• Recognizing when feelings become leverage
• The difference between being stubborn and being grounded
• Listening to wise counsel without handing over the wheel
• Why over-explaining can turn into seeking approval
• The guilt that can come with establishing boundaries
• Accepting that standing on your values may cost you something
• Trusting yourself enough to stand on the decisions you’ve made

Standing on business doesn’t mean being cold, dismissive, or unwilling to listen. It means knowing your values, examining your choices, accepting accountability when necessary, and understanding that someone else’s discomfort doesn’t automatically mean you’ve done something wrong.

So this week, I want you to ask yourself:

Is there something I genuinely need to reconsider—or am I questioning myself because someone else is uncomfortable with my decision?

You made the courageous decision.

Now comes the next part.

Courage has consequences. Stand on it anyway. 

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Transcript

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Hello, I'm Pamela Davis Brown. Welcome to episode 257 of the Well Done Life Podcast. And if you've been here before, you guys know the deal. I love you deep. Thank you so much for continuing to rock with me. I wouldn't be able to do this without you, and I truly appreciate your support and encouragement. And of course, I always want you to bring friends and stay. Before we get started with this week's episode, I like to be really foundational. It's really important to me that, you know, we treat this house, this safe space that we're creating, um, with care, and that we make sure that our foundation is really strong. So I like to make sure that I give you the roots of our foundation here, what we do, before we start talking about new subjects. And so, really, our roots, our foundation are built on two very important things, and that's clarity and love. Clarity is really straightforward. I just want you to understand that I created the Well Done Life brand because I believe in the power of women. I believe in the power of us sharing our stories, the good and the bad, because we need each other and we need spaces where we can be our most authentic self. And so I always hope that by me sharing my journey as well as spotlighting the journey of other women, that I give you encouragement and resources that will help you, as well as also inspiring you to share your story. Your story is so unique, and it is an opportunity to really pour into someone. You never know who you might encourage or help by sharing yourself. So I hope that I create a space where you feel like you know what, I can do this too, because you can. And so I hope that you will be inspired to share your journey. We need you. And also I like to make sure that you understand that everything that we do in this space is going to be rooted in love. I truly believe in love. I'm a sucker for love. And because of that, I always like to make sure that I start my episodes off with prayer. I believe in the power of prayer, and I always think that when two or more people come together, obviously prayer is magnified. And so for me, it's been very important to stand on a couple of foundational prayers because it's crazy out here. And so I want to make sure that I'm arming myself as well as arming you with my love and my energy and my prayers because I just want us to come together and create beauty in this world. And so, my first prayer for you is always going to be peace. I really want you to have peace. I want you to take moments where you're able to reset yourself. The world is coming at us quick. There's always something to do. And so I want to make sure that you understand the importance of actually taking a moment to breathe. And that can be in your car, in your closet, in your bathroom, whatever you need, wherever you can capture it. Take a moment to breathe. 30 seconds. Everybody has 30 seconds for themselves just to breathe in and to breathe out and to allow some of the things that are running through your mind to actually still for a moment. Because when you have the ability to, you know, find peace and to be still, you're able to find inside of yourself that you can regulate your mind and your body. And that leads into my second prayer, which is clarity. They work hand in hand. Because, like I said, life is coming at you fast. We're having to make a lot of different decisions right now. And so you need to be able to have clarity. You need clarity because you have to sift through all the garbage sometimes to be able to understand what you need to do. And so I really feel like it is imperative that you have peace because not out just regulating your body, it also gives you a chance to regulate your mind, which allows things to come into you in a more clearer perspective, and it'll help guide you as you're making decisions. So I pray that you will be able to find peace and clarity this week. Along with that, I'm always going to pray that you have community. I think it's important that you have a tribe, a clique, a crew, your family, your peeps, your homies, whatever that you can rely on. And I'm talking about rely on in a way where it feels reciprocal. I mean, I'm a firm believer that we need strong reciprocal relationships. And when I talk about that, it's just like you are pouring into them just the way that they're pouring into you. I pray that you are surrounded by people who see you, who value you, who can correct you in love, who can inspire you in love, who can be there to wipe tears and to support you and encourage you. It doesn't matter. We all need somebody. And so I pray that you are surrounded by people who are truly out for your best interest. I really want to make sure you have that. And if you think about it, having the wherewithal to have peace and clarity allows you to see the people that you need to see in the right way and to be able to understand the level and depths of friendships that you have around you because no one's coming to save us. And so we have to make sure that we have a strong community that we can build within. And then rounding out my prayers, I'm always going to pray for you to have abundance. I'm actually going to tag team it, abundance and love. I really feel like it is imperative that you have those two things. I want you to have abundance, not just because I want you to be financially abundant. I'm always going to want that for you so you can be a blessing to yourself and to other people. But I need you to be spiritually abundant. I need you to have moments inside of yourself that just bring you pure joy. Because, like I said, the world is moving quick. And so it is imperative that you are able to find joy, to be able to capture it, to memorize it, to imprint it on yourself, because it will just continue to open you up to so many things. Don't lose out on the little things chasing the big things. There's never going to be enough money or opportunity or time and stuff. You can only buy so much stuff, but the memories that you make, the moments that you share, value those because life is fleeting, and those are going to be the things that are going to hold you down when it's tough. And as it relates to love, like I said, I'm a sucker for love. And I always want you to have good reciprocal love. I want you to be loved from the top of your head to the bottom of your feet. And I pray that all of those things are wrapped around you and carrying you through. So those are my prayers for you this week. I'm recording a little late. I'm actually recording on Saturday, August the 15th at 11 o'clock p.m. Yep, I am here, and I'm so glad to be here. I know it's been a few weeks. I've been traveling, I've been doing all the things. I couldn't carry the podcast mic, but y'all still been rocking with me, and I just really want to say thank you. I want to also say thank you to everyone for your support of my last episode, Courageous Decisions. I really got a lot of feedback, and I'm so grateful that people saw themselves out there trying to find the strength to make strong, courageous decisions. I had a wonderful um young lady reach out to me today about uh courageous decisions, and it just felt so good to know that everybody is out here trying to find a way to be encouraged and support themselves. So I really just want to say thank you to her because it just touched me how she reached out and just told me that my episode meant the world to her. So at committed to commitment to you, I want to say thank you that she's a self-love curator because it is so important that you choose you, that you find the strength within yourself to continue to make the hard decisions because we are equipped to do hard things. And if you haven't listened to courageous decision, and it's something that you're trying to find the strength to do, I hope that it will encourage you. It's out there, please check it out. I'll make sure I link it in the show notes. But like I said, I'm here and I'm back because I wanted to talk about actually something that goes right along with making a courageous decision. I wanted to talk about what it's like after you made the decision. Yep, let's talk about what it's like after you make the decision. Because when you make the decision to, you know, go against the grain, to choose yourself, to have your boundaries and goals, it's not easy. It's not. You know, we talk a lot about, like I said, being courageous, and being courageous is a beautiful thing. And I'm really grateful when I find the strength in myself to be courageous, and I love seeing others find it. And you know, a lot of times we we romanticize it, but what happens when people start telling you why you should consider the thing that you got courageous about, you know? What happens when the people that you may love don't like this new change that you've made? I mean, again, you know, we spend so much time talking about having the courage to make the decision, but we don't spend enough time talking about what happens after you make it, and what happens when the people that you love, when their disappointment starts making you question something that you were previously clear about. And that's where your courage, your strength can get tested. And so I want to give you some bricks to help encourage you. Yes, bricks. I like to say bricks, brick by brick is pretty much my like mantra on my health journey. But I realize I'm on a life journey. And so I'm gonna give you this brick, and I hope that it will help you build a road that you're gonna be able to stay the course on when making a courageous decision. So, like I said, we we're we're now gonna kind of dive into what happens when it has when the aftermath comes, when when it really people start to realize that, you know, uh-uh, I I'm not really feeling that. And, you know, it's it's a challenging place to be because when you've made this decision to be courageous, to say no, to stay, to leave, to set the boundary, to do all the things, to take the chance, it creates a lot of movement because all of those things require an action. And so you have to understand that sometimes when you make that decision, when you make that action, it's gonna change the course of the relationship that you have because it changes expectations, it changes access sometimes, it changes plans other people already had that involved you. And so now you're at this place where you have to start to wonder, you know, did I did I expect everyone to understand my decision when I made it? Was I prepared for someone to be disappointed? And does someone's negative reaction automatically mean that I made the wrong choice? And how something can something be right for you while still being difficult for someone else? And I think the one thing that all of those questions kind of lend, and I'll repeat them again because it's one of those things that I kind of want this again to be like an interactive episode. Uh it's one of those things where I want you to assess those questions as you're going through, especially if you're struggling with the aftermath, you have to understand one key thing. Having the courage to make the decision doesn't always guarantee that everybody's gonna love it, everybody's not gonna cheer, everybody's not gonna be happy, there are gonna be people who are gonna be pissed off. And so, how are you going to allow those feelings to impact how you move forward? And that is the key quintessential thing that you have to think about as you are building these bricks, as we're building this road to help you navigate how to handle the aftermath of the courageous decision. You have to be clear about whether or not you're going to allow someone else's feelings to impact you because you didn't get the deployment get the applause, you didn't get the rah-rah, sis boom bah, they weren't all ready for it. So, again, a couple of things that you need to start to explore if you're in that phase of it, you have to ask yourself did you expect everyone to understand your decision? Were you prepared for someone to be disappointed? Does someone's negative reaction automatically mean you made the wrong choice? And can something be right for you while still being difficult for someone else? Because as we're continuing to lay this brick, giving you now your step two, you have to understand that all of those questions that we asked on the first step show you that people have feelings. And the one thing that you have to remember as you are navigating this journey is that people are allowed to have feelings. Yeah, I mean, it is people are allowed to feel, they don't have to disagree, they can disagree with you, and that doesn't make them automatically toxic. And someone, because you know, that's like one of the first things that we instantly think sometimes, well, you know, they're toxic. Oh my god, they don't understand I'm choosing myself. No, someone being hurt by your decision means that they have feelings. Let's talk about the fact that someone being hurt doesn't automatically mean they're trying to manipulate you. Because I mean, as we are navigating these things and these feelings, let's be honest, sometimes that's also the second thing that we start to think of. The first thing too, sometimes like, oh, they're just trying to manipulate me by projecting their feelings on me and they're trying to make me change my perspective because it doesn't align with them. And but remember, they're allowed to have feelings. Or what about someone saying, I wish you wouldn't do this? It doesn't automatically mean that they don't support you. That's a real big one right there. Because when you're in that moment and you've made this courageous decision and you're feeling vulnerable and you're sharing and you've made this change, it is very easy to automatically think that they don't support you because they're pushing back on you. No, people are human, and sometimes your decisions actually genuinely affect them. And I think the important distinction to make here is that their feelings are their feelings, and their feelings deserve to be acknowledged, but those feelings don't automatically deserve authority over your decision. I mean, if you were clear about your choice, if you decided that this was the path that you wanted to take, just because somebody doesn't like it doesn't mean that you automatically have to pivot from it, even though you might acknowledge that they are hurt by your decision. I mean, I think about it, you you know, we've all been in situations. I've been in situations where, you know, once I kind of got tighter on my boundaries and what I was willing and not willing to do, I had to understand that everybody wasn't gonna feel good. And so there became moments where I would have to say, you know, I understand why you're disappointed. I did. You, you know, you felt a way because I wasn't as available to you as you used as you're used to me being. Or I would acknowledge, like, I hear what you're saying. I understand that this changes things for you. I mean, those are just things, again, giving people the space to allow their feelings to be heard, to be received, because ultimately that's what we all want. But then to still arrive at the fact that my decision hasn't changed and my compassion toward you doesn't mean that I have to surrender my decision. Because that's a really key part. We can't allow our desire to acknowledge, especially the people that we love, change us from our decision. If we have made a clear, concise decision that aligns with where we are in our lives right now, why are we so willing to give it up because someone doesn't like it? I mean, there are going to be a lot of things in this world that people aren't going to like, but the decisions are in the paths are still the same. And so you have to feel confident in what you have acquired because and in in that and when I say acquired, I'm talking about the strength that it has taken you to get to the point where you chose yourself, where you decided to make these decisions. Because let's be real, it is so hard to be honest with ourselves. It is so hard to choose ourselves, it is so hard to set up boundaries, and it is so hard to enforce them, especially when you're not used to it, especially when you are used to capitulating to other people all the time. Now all of a sudden, it's like you've changed up the game because you have decided that you are finally worth it. So don't allow your worth to be diminished, to be given away because somebody feels away. No, that's not what it's about. It's about compassion and it's about remembering it's never about surrender. And so that leads us into break number three. And we have to think about again, we're talking about the feeling and understanding that there's a difference between someone sharing their feelings and someone using their feelings to control your behavior. Because, like I talked about earlier, you know, a lot of times when people come at us, it can feel like they're trying to manipulate us to see their side, to change our perspective. And I think one of the key things is you have to understand that there are ways to distinguish between it and you have to be able to pay attention. So, really, when the conversation shifts from I'm hurt by your decision to I really cared about, if you really cared about me, you wouldn't do this. Or after everything I've done for you, I guess I know where I stand now. You have to understand that you're entering a whole new territory. You're going from people just acknowledging the fact that they are not used to this side of you, like feeling away about your decision, to actually people now trying to guilt you and maybe obligate you into looking at this decision as wrong based upon either family obligation, friendship dynamics, romantic relationship, workplace expectations, I mean faith and community expectations. There are so many ways and areas, unfortunately, where people get manipulated. I mean, let's keep it true. We've all been in situations where we have felt or have been potentially manipulated away from our particular goals and boundaries because it did not serve that person's interest at that particular time. And you looking back on those moments, obviously from where we are right now, you know, you learn how to forgive yourself for those moments when you didn't stand 10 toes down for yourself, but you have to understand that you're not in that space anymore. And you have recognized that someone else's emotional reaction is not automatically your guide on how you should be moving forward. It's like you recognize that I'm not going to allow our connection to shift something that I know is right for me. And that's why I said you have to stand 10 toes down for it. You have to know that this decision is the right decision for you. And I'm sorry that it doesn't align with what you think I should do, but it's still the right decision for me, and I'm going to move forward. And you have to, like I said, stand 10 toes down for it. And when you're standing 10 toes down for it, this is another brick that I am giving to you. I want you to understand that it's okay to listen without giving them everything. Because standing on business doesn't mean refusing to listen. Standing on business means being true to where you are in the space right now and being true to the decisions that you've made. But don't mistake, it doesn't mean refusing to listen. Because sometimes the people who love us see things that we can't see. So give yourself the space to listen. Because, like we've established, these people are not necessarily bad people. Again, like I gave you earlier, you understand between feelings and manipulation. We're talking about the people who have some feelings. And those people who have feelings could be coming to you from a place where I see something that you don't see. And so I want you to be able to listen, but I also want you to be able to ask yourself a few key questions. Is there truth in what they're saying to me? Am I reacting emotionally? Does this decision still align with my values? Am I protecting something important or am I protecting my ego? That's a word. When I make the same decision, if nobody were watching, am I willing to accept the consequences of this choice? Once you answer those questions, then make your assessment. Because there's a difference between being stubborn and being grounded. And being grounded means that I listened, I considered it, I examined it myself, and my answer is still my answer. Because again, you want to make sure that you are standing on boundaries, standing 10 toes down for something that you have vetted out. Don't get In a cycle where you allow your emotions to steer the conversation because it's very easy to get caught up in those moments. And then another brick that kind of goes along with that, that actually more than kind of goes along with it, you have to stop over explaining. And when I say that, I'm I'm guilty of it. I it's something that I'm working on and I'm getting better at it. But sometimes we explain because we want people to understand. And then we explain it again and again and again. And eventually the explanation starts to become negotiation. It really does. Because it's like if you have to explain something continuously over and over because you're trying to figure out ways in your mind subconsciously to make this person understand you, you're trying to negotiate with them. You're trying to get to a point where you are crafting a story that everybody can accept because you need consensus more than you want to stand on business about your boundaries. And at some point, you have to recognize that when you're no longer explaining your decision, again, like I said, you're trying to convince people to approve of it. And those are two things that we're not supposed to be really dealing with. Because again, you don't need unanimous support in order to make decisions about your life, or do you? And if you do, I'm not judging you. I'm just saying I think maybe then that's a deeper side that you might need to check for yourself more so than anyone. Because it's so important to recognize that your decisions that you make about your life are your life, and those are your decisions, and you can own them and wear them and stand in them, and you don't any owe anyone an explanation about them. Because a lot of times I think that when people get in conversations, I know myself when I've gotten in conversations with people previously, it's like I hear you, I love you, I understand that you don't agree, but this is what I've decided, and that's it. That's how I kind of move now. Whereas previously, it was like what I was constantly trying to explain. I was trying to constantly get you to understand because I had a need to be validated in other people's opinions because I needed other people's opinions to make me feel good about me because I didn't feel good about me. And I have to own that. I had to own that in order to move forward from it. Now I don't feel that way so much. Sometimes I find myself slipping into it because I think it's just naturally a part of who I am, but I'm definitely checking myself about it because why? There's no reason, it's not my job, it's not your job to make everyone like you, to make everyone understand you. That's not it. The people who love you will understand. The people who see you and value you will respect it and allow you to stand on it. Focus on that. And then my other break for you is because guilt doesn't always mean that you're wrong. And I think this is especially important for us because, as women, many of us have spent years being taught directly or indirectly to manage everyone else's emotional experience, keep everybody comfortable, don't disappoint anybody, don't make things difficult, don't hurt anyone's feelings, be accommodating. And so when you finally try to establish a boundary or make a decision that doesn't feel like it goes along with what everybody else's want everybody else wants, it can create discomfort. And that discomfort in turn can create guilt. And so your guilt can have you thinking that you're wrong, but maybe you're not wrong, though. Sometimes guilt is simply the feeling that accompanies doing something differently. And I think we need to recognize that you can love people deeply without making yourself responsible for every emotion they experience. I know for myself, I recently kind of gotten into this habit now where I say that I'm not an emotional backpack. Like I'm not making your life my emotional backpack. Like it's not my job to carry the weight of other people's expectations. And I mean that for my friends, for my family, for everyone. It's not. Of course, I will always be a support system and love on you and encourage you and inspire you and listen to you, but I can't take on the weight of the work for you. And I would never expect my friends, my husband, any of that to carry that weight for me. I owe people honesty with love. And because, and I'm gonna preface that because I think a lot of people misunderstand what I mean, what that is. And when I say honesty with love, I've been around numerous conversations over these 53 years of my life. And I have seen people who said they were my friend, and then kind of were moving in different ways where you wind up realize, I wound up realizing you weren't my friend. Always talk to me about giving me feedback and love. But what I recognized is that love, and I'm doing air quotes that they were given, um, that love was rooted in shade. I'm just gonna keep it real. It was rooted in shade. It was rooted in resentments that you didn't speak about. It was rooted in your own fears and doubts about yourself. And back in the day, I would take all of that on, and it became my emotional backpack. And I carried that emotional backpack for a very long time. And I have made it a point in my life, at these 53 years of life, to finally put these backpacks down and I don't pick any more up. And I think a lot of us miss those marks because we allow people to speak in love, and again, the air quotes, in our lives without recognizing the trueness of where a lot of those things are coming from. And let me just preface it: I'm not speaking about people like they're bad people. They're not bad people, they were just people who were misguided, people whose personal emotions were not clearly developed in a way where they could be expressed in a constructive manner versus a destructive manner. And being myself, at that particular point in time, I wasn't as emotionally strong as I am now. And I wasn't able to receive it in a way where I could discard it, you know, eat the meat and leave the bones. I couldn't. So I took it in and I carried it and I wore it until I came to a point where I finally got emotionally strong enough to recognize that I deserve better. And unfortunately, some of those friendships had to end. And so I always like to make sure that I stop and talk about that because if you are one of those people, in air quotes, who are giving feedback and love, I would ask you to search yourself and to figure out what inside of you may need to be healed, what inside of you may need a little love and care, so that you can learn not to project your feelings on people in a way that is negative, in a way that is manipulative, and realize that if you do the work on yourself, it is going to be better for you because you re you finally get an opportunity to really see that maybe it's not about them, it's about you. And you need some help too. And that doesn't make you a bad person, it just makes you a person who's finally recognized that I can do better and I should do better. So I pray that you do. Because, like I was saying, kind of going back to the brick that we're talking about, you know, you can't, it's not your job to keep everybody comfortable, it's not your job to make people feel good, because you have to recognize you can love people deeply without making yourself responsible again, like I said, for every emotion experience that's not your job. Put the backpack down, that is not your job, and that leads right into bricks, the next brick, which is the cost of this decision. Because I mean, we talked a lot about it. You know, there's a lot of things that you're gonna face, but the ultimate cost is that standing on your value, standing on your boundaries, standing on your decision is always gonna have a cost. Relationships may change, someone may distance themselves, an opportunity may disappear. I mean, people's perception of you may change, you may no longer be invited in certain spaces. I mean, there's a whole litany of things. And you have to sometimes discover that a relationship worked beautifully as long as you were cool, as long as you did what they needed you to do. And then when it shifted, it became a problem. And instead of you focusing on the fact that it became a problem, instead of you focusing on the fact that you're hurt by it, you need to use that for what it is information. You need to take that opportunity to ask yourself, what am I willing to lose in order to remain aligned with what I say I value? Because ultimately what you value may at times supersede the relationships that you had. Because if those people can't understand that you are not who you were before and they are not able to adapt, you're gonna have to make a choice. It's gonna be a cost, but are you worth it? Are you worth it? And only you can determine that. You have to determine. And let me tell you, I have determined my worth, and I know that I'm worth it. Yes, I have a good group of friends. We roll tight, we roll deep. I don't roll with probably a whole bunch of folks, but I'm good with that because I know where my values align. I know where my peace aligns, and I'm not willing to sacrifice that anymore. Like I said, I just got through being an emotional backpack. So I can't add weight back in. I'm trying to fly on the sun. I need to be light. So I make decisions accordingly and understand that I'm worth it. So again, make sure you ask yourself, what are you willing to lose in order to remain aligned with what you say you value? Because boundaries without consequences are often just preferences, baby. I hate to tell you. I mean it. Boundaries without consequences are often just preferences. And sometimes you just gotta pay the cost to be the boss. It really is that simple. Because once you've made the cost, you've paid the cost to be the boss, it becomes really simple. And this is the final thing. You have to stand on it. You made the courageous decision, you thought about it, you are the boss now. You have prayed about it, you have examined yourself, you've listened to the people you trust. You consolidate, you consider the consequences. Now comes another courageous decision. Will you trust yourself enough to stand on it? Because standing on it doesn't mean being cold, it doesn't mean being disrespectful, it doesn't mean refusing accountability, and it doesn't mean cutting everybody off who disagrees with you. So please, I want to make sure I clarify that. I don't ever want you to think that's what it's about. It just means that you are grounded enough to say that I can love you and disagree with you. I can hear your disappointment without making it my responsibility to fix it. I can reconsider without abandoning myself. I can change my mind when new information warrants it, but it will not change my mind simply because my boundary makes somebody uncomfortable. You have to understand you, like I said, are worth it. And you are standing on this because you are worth it. And you know that the cost that you are paying to be the boss in the ultimate long run is going to bring you the results that you need, the peace that you're desiring, the goals that you're trying to accomplish. You have to be willing to stand on business for yourself and pay the cost and understand that with the courage is always going to come the consequences, but you are prepared to handle it. So, as I'm kind of wrapping this up, I want to leave you with these questions. Because, like I said, I think it's important as you are navigating this to kind of give you some tools to help. So, what courageous decision have you recently made? And what happened after you made it? You know, did anyone's reaction make you question yourself? Is there something you genuinely need to reconsider? Or are you simply uncomfortable because somebody else is uncomfortable? And if that decision still aligns with your values, are you willing to stand on it? Because making the courageous decision was the first step. Courage has consequences. Stand on it anyway because you are worth it, my love. Never forget you are worth it. So that is the episode this week. And I hope that I gave you maybe a little bit more courage, maybe a little bit more insight to help you understand that you can make the hard decisions and deal with the bullshit that comes with it afterwards. Because sorry, I just I can't really think of another better word to say, but it really is. There's always gonna be something that comes with it. It's gonna have a cost, but you're able to pay that cost because you know that you are worth it. Stand on it. Don't ever sacrifice your worth trying to please other people. Please yourself, please God, and trust that you have the discernment and the courage to stay faithful. So, again, like I said, that's the episode. I really would love if you would share with me or continue to share with me your courageous decisions and how you're standing on it. And I'm truly praying and believing for you to be able to do hard things and survive the cost that comes with them. So I will make sure that all of my information is in the show notes. Don't forget to hit me up. I pray that you are having a wonderful Sunday, that you are taking care of yourselves and each other. I will be back next week with another episode. I think we're gonna get back in the routine. I'm not gonna be traveling so much for a little bit, but I will be around living life, learning, loving, and I would love to live, learn, and laugh with you. So don't forget to reach out, and I hope you will take care of yourselves and each other, and we'll talk again soon next week. Take care. Bye bye.